A woman, who will just want me to make all the decisions and reason out all the possibilities in the home, with the notion that, I am the head has nothing to offer me of surety. She was supposed to be a help meet, she was supposed to be a thinking partner, because when we join our hearts, minds and intelligence together as one, we will move mountains and do the impossible, this was why the bible said two are better than one, for one shall chase a thousand and two ten thousand. When i read about Dr Martin Luther King Jr, something struck me in his story, he was in love with his then fiancee, Coretta, who later became his wife, now Coretta was giving up her personal career which she was so passionate about to follow Dr King, the biggest problem wasn't Coretta giving up the pursuit of her career, it was the parents of Martin Luther endorsing her for their son.
They didn't quite see Coretta as
good enough for their Son, who was being raised to be a Baptist Pastor, so they
didn't accept the idea, along the line, Martin's father requested to meet with
Coretta personally and after their discussion, he immediately approved of her
to be his Son's wife. Something struck Martin's father during their
conversation, Coretta said, am not in Martin's life for just anything, i
believe i got so much to offer Martin, in other words Martin needs me, and we
saw her great spirit in the life of Martin and cause. For me she should have
initiative, this will bond companionship and discussion. Our biggest problem is
that we have very few women investing in their minds to be productive and
resourceful in the home, to effectively carry out their roles as help meet;
marriage is not a thing of feeling but a thing of selfless and sacrificial
contribution as one, and this why is partnership and oneness.
A woman who got
enough initiative and wisdom to correct me with respect, honor, humility and
decorum when am going wrong. A woman
whose contributions, don’t just end in the bedroom and kitchen. I believe what
a wife got to offer her husband is beyond sex, food and chores, there is more
to life than food, more to vision and purpose than sex, but today many women
don't go into marriage for the substance they got to offer, but for personal
gain and emotional satisfaction. A woman, who is going into marriage for what
she can offer, will always be able to recognize a God man, who is someone,
going somewhere to happen, irrespective of the present, she is full of faith to
see the future and believes in him and his cause, she is a support and source
of motivation and encouragement. She should have the initiative and resourceful
enough to manage the home and the resources, to grow the family's future,
posterity and fortune, take the family in a progressive direction than she met
it through her prayers, commitments and resourceful contributions.
She is a
core in the decision making process of the home, because she is part of the
cause and vision and got so much to offer to its success, no wonder in proverbs
31: 28, the bible said her children shall arise up and call her blessed, her
husband also and he praiseth her. A wife
is a blessing and favor. Sex is not the ultimate, if sex is the ultimate, then
i can marry her for satisfaction, if food and chores is the ultimate then i can
get a maid to do that. Lots of young ladies going into marriage need to develop
the maturity and resourcefulness to impact their home, husband and children
with the right stuff. A woman who can't contribute to decision making and is
expecting me to think it through all the time, has nothing to offer me and she
is going nowhere with me.
