Beyond the container

A woman, who will just want me to make all the decisions and reason out all the possibilities in the home, with the notion that, I am the head has nothing to offer me of surety. She was supposed to be a help meet, she was supposed to be a thinking partner, because when we join our hearts, minds and intelligence together as one, we will move mountains and do the impossible, this was why the bible said two are better than one, for one shall chase a thousand and two ten thousand. When i read about Dr Martin Luther King Jr, something struck me in his story, he was in love with his then fiancee, Coretta, who later became his wife, now Coretta was giving up her personal career which she was so passionate about to follow Dr King, the biggest problem wasn't Coretta giving up the pursuit of her career, it was the parents of Martin Luther endorsing her for their son.

 They didn't quite see Coretta as good enough for their Son, who was being raised to be a Baptist Pastor, so they didn't accept the idea, along the line, Martin's father requested to meet with Coretta personally and after their discussion, he immediately approved of her to be his Son's wife. Something struck Martin's father during their conversation, Coretta said, am not in Martin's life for just anything, i believe i got so much to offer Martin, in other words Martin needs me, and we saw her great spirit in the life of Martin and cause. For me she should have initiative, this will bond companionship and discussion. Our biggest problem is that we have very few women investing in their minds to be productive and resourceful in the home, to effectively carry out their roles as help meet; marriage is not a thing of feeling but a thing of selfless and sacrificial contribution as one, and this why is partnership and oneness. 

 

 A woman who got enough initiative and wisdom to correct me with respect, honor, humility and decorum when am going wrong.  A woman whose contributions, don’t just end in the bedroom and kitchen. I believe what a wife got to offer her husband is beyond sex, food and chores, there is more to life than food, more to vision and purpose than sex, but today many women don't go into marriage for the substance they got to offer, but for personal gain and emotional satisfaction. A woman, who is going into marriage for what she can offer, will always be able to recognize a God man, who is someone, going somewhere to happen, irrespective of the present, she is full of faith to see the future and believes in him and his cause, she is a support and source of motivation and encouragement. She should have the initiative and resourceful enough to manage the home and the resources, to grow the family's future, posterity and fortune, take the family in a progressive direction than she met it through her prayers, commitments and resourceful contributions.

 She is a core in the decision making process of the home, because she is part of the cause and vision and got so much to offer to its success, no wonder in proverbs 31: 28, the bible said her children shall arise up and call her blessed, her husband also and he praiseth her.  A wife is a blessing and favor. Sex is not the ultimate, if sex is the ultimate, then i can marry her for satisfaction, if food and chores is the ultimate then i can get a maid to do that. Lots of young ladies going into marriage need to develop the maturity and resourcefulness to impact their home, husband and children with the right stuff. A woman who can't contribute to decision making and is expecting me to think it through all the time, has nothing to offer me and she is going nowhere with me.